Monique writes: My husband, who had been married before (it’s my first), brought his double bed along when we combined our furnishings. I’m uncomfortable about sleeping in the same bed he shared with her. What’s the best way to approach him on this, or should I not make a big deal of it?

Chuck and Jae reply: When Jae and I moved in together, we “combined” our furniture too. After about 2 years, the only piece remaining from my effects was a La-Z-Boy recliner, which was relegated to a far corner of the house. The process was so smoothly accomplished by her that I hardly noticed what was going on. I must admit, in retrospect, that her taste in furniture was much better than mine.
The best way to approach your husband on this would be simply to tell him of your discomfort. If it’s not a big deal with him, he’ll probably agree to get another bed.
On the other hand, if he retained the bed because it is very comfortable for him or for some other practical (read nonsentimental) reason, you might want to consider beforehand whether you would be willing to compromise in some way (like buying new mattresses).